Friday, August 31, 2012

Week 2 complete

We have completed our second week of homeschooling and it was much better than the first. G's major disappointment was on Monday morning when we started our school work while the traditional kiddos had the day off due to the possible hurricane/tropical storm that was projected to hit out area. I must first explain before going any further that the storm went far west of the state and we really only had some rain off and on during the day. Nothing major and if anything it was a day off for play for traditional school kiddos. I explained to G that these children would indeed have to make their work up. There was no point in us taking a day off when we didn't have too. He is much happier with that decision now that Friday is here and he is out running errands with his dad!

That brings me to Labor Day and a non-school/work day for many. I am personally planning to do just a little school work -- mostly just reading. Overall we will take the day off but much to G's chagrin, we will be making up the work during the week and more than likely, next Friday will not be a free day!

I keep trying to get him to understand that we are doing our work so that we can take off and do other things during the year -- like field trips, go visit family, take beach days, Disney days, Busch Gardens days, play days, just-because days. I don't want us not to do school just because no one else is doing it. I would rather save up those times for those days we really don't want to do it. Plus, I am trying to get some type of routine started and with this being our 2nd week, I don't think the routine is established.

As he is 8 years old and assures me is a big boy now, I have shown him the books and talked excitedly about all we're planning to cover this year. For example, he loves elephants. Our study this year is about the different countries and cultures around the world. I purposely pulled out some info to show him that we would studying regarding elephants when we got to the Africa sections. This excited him. But then I flipped through all the stuff we needed to do before then. As we flipped through, I could see his eyes lighting up and he was pointing at different things. I think he finally understands. But, as we all know that in the moment we all understand but putting it into practice and feeling that excitement all the time is another story.

At least now, he has the proverbial 'carrot' he is chasing to get to the next section. I have talked up our starting North America next week and he is really looking forward to some of the activities it has planned for us. That is half the battle -- getting him to buy-in to what we're doing. In any event, he is learning. I am learning. And, it's all being done in our PJs!


Tuesday, August 28, 2012

What is a stride anyway?

It's only our second week of our official school year and I have already decided to switch up what we're doing each day. Fortunately, I am not changing curriculum -- but that is never off the table either. I am however taking a look at our family dynamic, demands on our day, activities, likes/dislikes and so on when making changes. Just because something looks good on paper doesn't mean it will function well in practice!  For instance, on paper I would function quite well with a bigger house and a full-time maid but in reality, there is a small problem with finances. Oh well, I can at least put it on paper!

This past week, many of my homeschool friends were commenting on their Facebook pages and in various groups about successes, triumphs, firsts, complaints, questions, and the like with their first week of school. One major demotivator for the majority of them was that they hadn't found their stride. They were feeling overwhelmed and unprepared. In essence, they weren't feeling this homeschool thing. I am  sure most just wanted to vent and look for some words of encouragement but I am thinking that a few of them were re-thinking the whole homeschool concept.

I remember feeling that way especially last year since it was our first year. I know I looked around and everyone else seemed to have it together and with much deeper curriculum and activities for their kiddos. I considered many times throwing in the towel because I was sure that I was doing G more harm than good. I had a good network of support from veteran homeschool moms that I would often lament to. They in turn would offer words of encouragement and assure me that what I was feeling was normal and that they too had experienced (and still did from time to time) many of things I complained about.

My take away from my first year was that G was learning everyday in all that we did so it really didn't matter if we didn't finish all of our science or make it to the cool field trip or complete every task laid out for me in my leader guide.  I don't need that kind of stress and neither do you. In time, you will find your stride and if you don't, oh well -- it won't be on the year end evaluation!

One of the many benefits of homeschooling is the freedom to totally tweak your homeschool activities, day and even curriculum to fit your family like a glove. This is not to say that the glove will always fit because as you family goes through life, the glove may loose it shape, get too small, or just not work anymore. The beauty is that you have an unlimited supply of gloves and it just takes a LOT of trial and error to find one that fits. (just like a good pair of shoes or in my case a comfy set of PJs).

Blessings on your journey!!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Our First Week -- Ups and Downs!!

Yippee!!

We made it through our first week of homeschool. I must say that both G and I are very rusty in this whole focus-thing that is required to at least get started with actually doing something not related to the pool or beach.

I will admit, the first day was rough and there were facets of my personality I was none too proud of on that day. There were threats of bodily harm, attending public school again and me moving to a deserted island ALONE!  Whew!! But, G and I made it and agreed before the day was up that we needed to change some things soon as our process was going south real fast!! We stopped, prayed and regrouped.

Tuesday was our second day of school and it went much better. I made some adjustments to our schedule so that we weren't trying to do so much in one day. I allowed G to make some more decisions in regards to the order of what he wanted to study. Also, I encouraged him to share what kind of activities or ideas he had for how to make this more appealing to him. He shrugged and admited he likes what we are studying.  It is just the "having to do it" that bugs him. Okay -- he gets that honest!! I have always been notorious for not wanting to do what I was "required to do." For instance, back in high school, if I was assigned to read a particular book -- I HATED IT and dragged my feet to get it done. Whereas, if I had picked it up on my own, I would have gladly consumed it and even asked for seconds. I am hoping to engage him more and use his ideas for how we approach our study.

Wednesday was our third day and it went really well! I don't even think I raised my voice and he barely rolled his eyes! We are making progress!! Honestly, it was a better day because we just stuck with what was working and I took out the extra stuff I was trying to add. I decided (and discussed it with G) that we would hold off on the extras he and I agreed to add this year - like Spanish and cursive, writing until we were had a groove with the core stuff. It took a lot of pressure off both of us!

Thursday, today, was our final day of the week. I intentionally schedule a 4 day work week so we have an extra day in the event of a field trip, doctor's appointment, sick day, 'not feeling it day,' etc.... Today was pretty low key because to be honest, we were somewhat ahead of schedule even with all my ranting and his raving!!

That being said - we are making adjustments to our schedule and to be realistic, we'll probably be doing that through the entire year. Love the flexibility and freedom with homeschooling to do just that. Bottom line for the week: We still love each other and we are still homeschooling in our PJs!

Hope all of you had a successful first week or will have if you haven't started yet!!

Saturday, August 18, 2012

1st Day Top 10 List

Monday will be here soon!! I can't wait to really dig in. G on the other hand, has put in his request to take it easy on him!! I will, I will!! I advised him Monday will be like the first day of school when he went to public school with some slight differences.

Top 10 Ways our 1st day of school will differ from our Public School Counterparts:
  1. Mommy doesn't get to attend the "Woo-Hoo Boo-Hoo" after I have said good-bye to my little munchkin. Thus, no free donuts, juice and talk about all we're going to accomplish with all this free time. (What is 'free-time' anyway??)
  2. We can sleep in since our commute only involves walking into the dining room.
  3. No back packs or lunches to pack.
  4. No need for introductions or feeling shy, since we all know each other.
  5. No ironing of uniforms or school clothes! (Not that I iron anyway!)
  6. No need for name tags, tours of the school or explanation of school policies.
  7. Mommy doesn't need to sign up for PTA events and/or to bring snacks for class. In this establishment, I already wear all those hats!
  8. We allow our dog to go to school with us (reluctantly at times) versus allowing her to stare out the window as we drive away for the entire day.
  9. We can move around and not have to sit in our seats all day long! Heck, we'll probably lay on the couch and/or beanbag chair to get some reading in.
  10. We get to wear our PJs to school!!! (Not that there aren't a few parents out there who drive their kiddos to school wearing their robes. That is not the same as, Junior is more than mortified and hopes no one sees him being dropped off.)
Whatever you do and whenever you start!! I hope it's a fabulous stress-free day!! Make each day your own and learn as you go!! As always, remember -- you can accomplish a lot in your PJs. We do!!

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Almost ready!!!

Woo Hoo!! We are ready to go with the new school year. Well, to be fair G doesn't share the same level of excitement and enthusiasm as I do. If I squint really hard when I look at him, I can make almost make out a little smile. No, not really! But, a girl can dream!!

How did we get here? Well, it all started with clearing off the boxes that had taken over my spare room. I don't even know why we have a bed in there. I think it just so I don't take up hoarding things as it is really hard to put things neatly upon and around the bed. Anyway, I digress!!

Since the beginning of summer, anything school related or anything "I don't want to deal with right now" has been delegated to the spare room. And for some reason, I seem to develop selective amnesia about that part of the house. Then one day, I walk in there and think "oh my -- how did all this stuff get in here???"  This truly happens to me just prior to Christmas, near Easter,  when we're expecting guests and just before school starts. So, it's time for the quarterly cleaning and organizing.

So, G and I dug in on the room yesterday and much to my surprise, he really was excited to see the different books and projects we will be working on this year. As we cleaned, we talked about all the cool things we were going to learn and how we could incorporate different projects, field trips and activities into the year. So, in essence I guess he is a little more excited than I gave him credit for in my opening.

I don't think that I have mentioned that in our home, we don't have a school room or even a school area. Last year, we used rolling carts with drawers to keep our school supplies and books together. We would roll them out each morning to the dining room table to get started. I found that I started stacking the school books at the far end of the table or in one of the empty chairs because somewhere along the line, we weren't as diligent about clearing the area.  I really dislike clutter thus the reason I have a spare room with a door that I can close. (Hey, it's all making sense!)

Well, this year I purchased a heavy duty crate cart to hold our books. That put less weight on the rolling drawer carts and the wheels won't fall off. Another possible reason that contributed to our lack of diligence. Hmmmmm.... Anyway, we cleaned out the old carts and loaded up the books into my heavy duty rolling cart. In the end,  I was so elated since everything that had once taken up a queen size bed was now stored conveniently in a much smaller space. We did however have  a nice pile of boxes in which G claimed as his very own for a "project" that has yet to be determined. Oh well, at least the bed is cleaned off, the supplies are ready to go and the boxes are neatly stacked in and around each other. Now it's my mission and I choose to accept it - to squirrel those boxes out to the trash a couple at a time.

G shouldn't be too upset because after all, we have to start our pre-Christmas hoarding about now. That should give him something to look forward to!! LOL

Monday, August 13, 2012

Dare to compare

Confession time!! I spent most of my first year homeschooling comparing myself to others, especially those well organized veterans that gave the appearance of being calm, cool and collected while their well-behaved brood of at least 12 sat quietly while mommy had a conversation. Okay, okay!! Maybe I am stretching it a little, but let's face it -- that's what we do when we compare. All the reality of their lives seems to fade into the background, while the spotlight shines brightest on the areas of their lives we like least about own.

I have not always been the most confident person yet I can carry myself like I am. So ,I am quite an expert on the contemplative study of the lives of others: ie: Comparing!!! In reality, if I had the opportunity to be a proverbial fly on the wall or actually have a "Freaky Friday" experience and spend a little time in their skin, I would more than likely find out that they have the same struggles I do.  I am sure their little darlings talk back, complain about schoolwork, and generally behave like children. In addition, I am sure that her house is not always immaculate, her lesson plans are somewhat scattered and that she has to also lock herself in the bathroom for a few minutes of alone time!

I have vowed to myself, in this my second year of this homeschool journey, to avoid at all costs the deadly comparison issue.  I will however stop short at wearing blinders and never leaving my house. What I will do is realize that my family and I are doing what works for us! That the dishes don't always have to be completely out of the sink; the laundry can wait a little longer; it's okay if we don't finish our science book before the end of the year; G and I are okay if he skips Latin in the 3rd grade and tries something he wants to do -- like play guitar; and so on!

So, folks before you start trying to compare yourself to anyone else just remember, you are who God intended you to be. YOU know what's best for your family. The same shoe does not fit everybody! Not all curriculum or teaching styles are created equal and that can only be measured by you!!

Remember, life is like an ice cream shop! There are so many flavors to try and you're not going to like them all. Sometimes it takes being a little bold and mixing a couple together to find just the right taste for you!!

Ummmm... Ice cream.. Time for a scoop or two while I lounge back for some me time!! You guessed, it -- I will wearing my favorite PJs!!


Meet the Fam!

I guess if I am going to write about our journey, then I should tell you a little about our family.
We are made up of a trio of silly, sarcastic, polar opposites. We're all easily distracted thus you have to get our attention quickly and do something interesting to keep it.

Me: Well, I am the teacher in the group or at least facilitator of all that is "homeschool." At least that is dubious title given to me by the other two in the family. I like to say I am the typical type-A personality yet I am a study in contradictions. I like structure but I don't like to put anything in pencil on my calendar. I abhor making appointments or plans more than 2 days in advance, but I like to know what we're doing. I like someone to tell me what needs to be done but I want to be the one who decides HOW, WHEN and even WHAT portions I want to do.  I need guidance, but don't like hand-holding. I am a list-maker but at the same time don't like to make lesson plans. I would rather document what I accomplished vs what needs to be done. I love to read!! I enjoy learning and would be a professional student if there were any money in it. I have a fascination with Disney and like to write. My writing however borders on the tongue-in-cheek style and I don't take myself too seriously.

Hubby: I like to call him the Principal of our little school. We are blessed that he works from home unless he is traveling. During the summer months, he's been gone almost weekly. It appears from his calendar that he will be home near the start of our school year. As for his traits, he is a techy, logical thinker. He is the one who also helps out with the mechanics of things, enjoys doing the science experiments and breaks down lengthy explanations or instructions to a "for dummies" version for yours truly. He is a kid at heart, so when the two them put their minds together, I am out-gunned and might as well call it a day.

Kiddo: I will refer to him as "G." He is a textbook strong-willed child. He spent 2 years in public school so I use that to my advantage as motivation to get him to do his work. I have found that he is a kinesthetic learner and he totally dislikes worksheets. Worksheets are one way to cause him to tune out. But give him Lego blocks to manipulate or teach him by allowing him to use his hands and he is all over it! He is also very lovable, enjoys time with the family and wishes all learning could be done with Star Wars, Legos or video games. In essence, he is a typical 8 year old boy. G is much like his father in their learning approach. They avoid formal learning at all costs. My tactic is to sneak in as much as I can without their knowing. Similar to hiding veggies in the spaghetti sauce. (shhhhhh!!! It's a secret).

I almost forgot, we do have one more member of the family. She is our pup and if I had to classify her, she is our distraction. Ever-ready to play and none-too-understanding of her boy having sit down and not pay attention to her. During the school day, she is surrounded by chew toys and rawhide bones.

Well, that's some information about us. As I post, I am sure more interesting or at least amusing aspects of our dynamic will appear. At the very least, I am sure I will learn a little something more about us too. As I said earlier, I love to learn. And, I especially love homeschooling in my PJs.

So, stay in your PJs, grab a cup of coffee and join us!



Saturday, August 11, 2012

Getting started

Back today from speaking at a local Homeschool event on my first year of homeshooling my 2nd grader. Umhmmm, I mean now to be 3rd grader!  I was impressed by the other speakers and how much wealth and wisdom they have to offer.

It hit me that we are all at different stages of our lives no matter our journey. None of us - let me repeat, NONE OF US, has it all figured out and no longer have any capacity to learn or even teach others through our experiences. We have unlimited capacity to learn and to share!!

If life as taught me anything is that people need each other and shared experiences are the thread that draws us all together.

Life cannot be done alone as I don't believe the good Lord intended us to be alone. I believe that we are   wired to desire and need other interactions. In essence, we are relational creatures.

I created this blog for a couple of reasons:

  1.  To have an outlet to ramble, ponder, rant and even brag about my family's homeschool adventures. 
  2. To pass on even a snippet of my experiences in hopes that they may help or at least amuse others. 
  3. Finally, I think it's okay to offer validation to others and for all us to know that there is no right or wrong way to homeschool your children. In my house, we like to homeschool in our PJs!! 


Follow along and there is no telling what I will write or share!!